Thursday, April 2, 2009

"I like_______." "That sux!"

When did it get so easy to dismiss an opinion.
Aren't opinions totally subjective? How can they be wrong?
We all get to control (as a good friend once put it) that one voice in our own heads.
If you ask someone what they think, have the decency to respect their answer.
If you are prepared to discount the response do everyone a favor and don't ask.

I don't want to come across as faultless in this gaff. I am sure I have done it, and let me apologize to anyone that has been diss'd by me for stating a preference. It's easy to get caught up in the frenzy. It has become a social norm to override anyone that proudly states an opinion.
And it sux.

We have probably all heard how it goes...
"did you like the meal?"
"sure, the chicken was especially yummy."
"Ugh. I hate chicken"
followed by an awkward silence.
or
"Which of the designs do you like?"
"I like the one with the image of the penguin on skates."
"That one was just stupid."
crickets.

It's a simple fix. Folks should just bracket their response with a personalization like, "I don't care for waterfowl with human skills." or "Interesting... I'm not much for rolling birds."

The exception of course is someone that is constantly stating unsolicited opinions. This is icky at the other end of the meter.

I don't know of any polite way to correct people that are over-riders. But maybe if we all start being a little nicer to each other, we will get people to speak their minds more freely and baby ideas will grow up to be big ideas.

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